What will matter

What will Matter

Author: Michael Josephson
Ready or not, some day it will all come to an end.
There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours or days.
All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten, will pass to someone else.
Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance.
It will not matter what you owned or what you were owed.
Your grudges, resentments, frustrations and jealousies will finally disappear.
So too, your hopes, ambitions, plans and to-do lists will expire.
The wins and losses that once seemed so important will fade away.
It won’t matter where you came from or what side of the tracks you lived on at the end.
It won’t matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant.
Even your gender and skin color will be irrelevant.So what will matter? How will the value of your days be measured?

What will matter is not what you bought, but what you built; not what you got, but what you gave.
What will matter is not your success, but your significance.
What will matter is not what you learned, but what you taught.
What will matter is every act of integrity, compassion, courage or sacrifice that enriched, empowered or encouraged others to emulate your example.

What will matter is not your competence, but your character.
What will matter is not how many people you knew, but how many will feel a lasting loss when you’re gone.
What will matter is not your memories, but the memories that live in those who loved you.
What will matter is how long you will be remembered, by whom and for what.

Living a life that matters doesn’t happen by accident.
It’s not a matter of circumstance but of choice.
Choose to live a life that matters.







young artist


Armand doing his bit…





 By Brenda Anderson – Langley Times

Published: April 12, 2011 3:00 PM
Updated: April 13, 2011 1:44 PM




Armand Lombard, 9, poses with his painting ‘Twinkle Eye’ which he has donated to a Facebook auction site raising funds for Japan earthquake and tsunami relief, through the Canadian Red Cross.

John GORDON/Langley Times

 Armand Lombard can’t exactly sit down and write a big check to help the people of Japan as they struggle to recover from last month’s devastating earthquake and tsunami.

But that doesn’t mean the nine-year-old Langley boy is going to just sit quietly and let the grownups handle it.

Instead, Armand picked up his paint brush and went to work.

The budding young artist — whose family moved to Canada from South Africa two years ago — has created a painting which is now being auctioned off as part of Artists for Japan, a Facebook campaign to support the efforts of the Canadian Red Cross in the devastated island nation.

Armand based his painting on one his mother Freda, also an artist, had created, but made the colours his own.

He selected a range of bright jewel-tone colours, from vibrant green to purple, blue and yellow, all of which he mixed from primary colours.

But the focus of the piece is the ‘Twinkle Eye’ for which it is named.

The woman’s red iris is set in the middle of the white of the eye to represent the flag of Japan.

It is lined in silver glitter to give it its ‘twinkle.’

“He painted it on his first easel, said Freda, explaining that her younger son (older brother Reynard is 12) has always liked to draw but only took up painting last October, working alongside his mom in her downstairs studio.

“We try to paint together every day,” she said.

Since he posted the painting on the site with a reserve bid of $8, it has begun to climb, with a top bid of $25 on Monday.

Freda stumbled across the Facebook site and had decided to create a piece of her own to donate when her son expressed an interest in joining her.

“He was ecstatic that his painting would go to help Japan,” said Freda.

To learn more or to bid on a piece of artwork, log onto Facebook and search “Artists for Japan” or http://www.facebook.com/artistsforjapan?ref=ts

watch the video here http://www.bclocalnews.com/surrey_area/langleytimes/entertainment/119731224.html









…action is character…



John Wooden said  Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.”



Watch your thoughts, they become words.

Watch your words, they become actions.

Watch your actions, they become habits.

Watch your habits, they become your character.

Watch your character, it becomes your destiny…




Character is what you are in the dark….  

You can be a TRRFCC Person 

It is your choice  

T = Trustworthy 

R = Respect 

R = Responsibility 

F = Fairness 

C = Caring 

C = Citizenship   

www.charactercounts.org (all credit to cc)

Be honest • Don’t deceive, cheat or steal • Be reliable — do what you say you’ll do • Have the courage to do the right thing • Build a good reputation • Be loyal — stand by your family, friends and country

Treat others with respect; follow the Golden Rule • Be tolerant of differences • Use good manners, not bad language • Be considerate of the feelings of others • Don’t threaten, hit or hurt anyone • Deal peacefully with anger, insults and disagreements

Do what you are supposed to do • Persevere: keep on trying! • Always do your best • Use self-control • Be self-disciplined • Think before you act — consider the consequences • Be accountable for your choices

Play by the rules • Take turns and share • Be open-minded; listen to others • Don’t take advantage of others • Don’t blame others carelessly

Be kind • Be compassionate and show you care • Express gratitude • Forgive others • Help people in need

Do your share to make your school and community better • Cooperate • Get involved in community affairs • Stay informed; vote • Be a good neighbor • Obey laws and rules • Respect authority • Protect the environment


head heart hands

Like food for the body, such is values for the soul



the Question is whether you

– Know what the right thing to do is,

– want to do the right thing and then

– do it

the difficult part is the ‘doing’ part. I know that I should not eat unhealthy food, but not doing so is not easy.


Character is to know what is right, want to do the right thing and then do it.


Our Human ability to make decisions

All choices start from the 3 dimensions of Good Character

– Knowing the good – the head

– Loving the good – the heart and

– Doing the good – the hand


HEAD – Knowledge

What I know – give them knowledge and they think about it…


The Head refers to an individual’s intellectual capacity, the ability to think creatively, strategically, conceptually.


In our heads we think ‘GOOD BEHAVIOUR’


HEART – Emotions / Values

“What I feel and who I am”


The heart is at the centre of an individual’s values and motives


In our heart we want to ‘CHANGE BEHAVIOUR’


HANDS – Behaviour / Skills

“What I do”


With our doing, our hands, we make it happen ‘BEHAVIOUR CHANGED’


When we use our Head, Heart and Hands wisely, we learn, love and live well.


We all have a perspective from which we move.


Are we making decisions based on personal beneficiary or on social beneficiary?

Are we making decisions based on personal beneficiary or on social beneficiary?


When we continue to choose the personal benefactor before the social beneficiary, the society will be hurting.


Why good character… for healthy, fulfilling relationships.


Character ethics is followed by a ripple effect that unfence and affects other people.

The goal of personality ethics is to build reputation, name and own self-worth.


What you think, feel and do forms your self-worth.

Right choices build your self-worth step by step

Poor choices break down self-worth.

Talking art

With all the gett’n ready for school my son was up to a quick art project for his room.  This room is an ongoing project and I like this boys’ ideas!  So watch this space!

We have quite a few wooden boards around the house, the boys have brought home from the Dojang.  Some kicked some punched, some in two pieces some in three… They are piling up and at this pace, we could build a house with all this wood in a few years time.  For now, we will use it for deco’!

The theme is taekwondo – self improvement – talking art….






Affirmation is a declaration that something is true.





Our Deepest Fear

By Marianne Williamson

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
Your playing small does not serve the world.

There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
So that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We were all meant to shine, as children do.
It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine,
We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same
As we are liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.







This was sent to me by my best friend


Love you Nanette


don’t quit

April Showers2When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest, if you must, but don't you quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don't give up though the pace seems slow--
You may succeed with another blow.
Often the goal is nearer than,
It seems to a faint and faltering man,
Often the struggler has given up,
When he might have captured the victor's cup,
And he learned too late when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the golden crown.
Success is failure turned inside out--
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far,
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit--
It's when things seem worst that you must not quit.
- Author unknown

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